Erm…just to check the veracity and validity of your statement that "married sex is the best sex" – have you had a lot of non-married sex, for comparison?I've never had marred sex and I'm not knocking it, but the non-married sex I've had has generally been pretty good, and on occasion (and with the right partner) absolutely spectacular.Woody Allen (I believe) once said something like, "Even the worst sex is still pretty good."
I would have to agree with the previous anonymous comment – weren't you pro-abstinence before you got married? You don't really seem to be in a position to pass judgment on this topic.BTW:How do you even know if you are doing it right? Sorry, I had to go there.
To clarify: the adjective "good" isn't meant to describe technique – I'm sure there are a few professionals that are "good" in that respect. By pointing out that married sex is "good" I mean that it is what sex is designed for. Having not experienced pre-marital sex, as you point out, I would still wager that sex with someone that has committed themselves to you for the rest of their life beats sex with anyone else.Neither Anonymouses seem to have had experience of married sex, however, and therefore I can assure them: it's good, and we're definitely doing it right.
The fact that no comparison can be made is one of the things that MAKES married sex (without pre-marital experience) so good. I think anonymouses above are probably referring specifically to orgasms… can I say orgasms here… and one of the joys of married sex is that it isn't that short sighted. It encompasses so much more… orgasms (thankfully) and so much more.
This is the first Anonymous (I checked back to see if Sarah had replied to my comment – and for the record, I have no idea who the other Anonymous is).Sarah, you said: …that it is what sex is designed for. First, I'm not going to even start about the word "designed"…moving on, sex is intended for procreation. That's it. And the focus of that is for orgasms, 'cause you can't have kids w/o orgasms (well, male orgasms – the female ones really aren't needed for the whole procreation thing (and whole I'm in paratheses here, Courtney, I sure hope we can type 'orgasm' here 'cause I've just done it a half-dozen times)). And if you're having sex and deliberately circumventing the procreation aspect (through some form of birth control) then you are no longer having sex for the reason it was "designed".Anyway…Sarah, it sounds like what you're talking about is acts that promote togetherness and bonding. Is having a meal, singing a song, or playing cards with someone to whom you are married better than with anyone else?
Hey 1st & 2nd Anonymouses…My husband's had both…he HIGHLY prefers the married version, you'd have to ask him why…lol! And i know he's not just saying that to please me, cuz he makes grunting noises and barely speaks legibly with other undecipherable sounds when describing how much he loves married sex vs. pre-married sex. LOL – i'm blushing.Anyway, if anything, maybe what you can take away from all of this is that marriage is not the end of a supremely wonderful sex-life and i think what Sarah meant by "design" is that society makes out sex to be something that's given out as easily as the condoms passed out in college halls, where dudes and dudettes alike boast of sleeping with someone the night before without even knowing their names. Conversely, society also makes out that marriage is like a ball-and-chain, the end of all things fun, independent and free.However, could there possibly be a third option? One where marriage can be the start of the best time of your life? Where looking back to college or young adult-hood as being the prime of life is replaced with looking forward knowing that the best is still to come? Well, my marriage makes me blush. thinking about my husband turns me on. I've had A LOT of fun as a single woman, but i'm having HECK of a lot more with my very best friend – including super hot sex – knowing full well that when i wake up in the morning and my breath stinks and i have goop in my eyes, he'll always still be there, giving me morning-breath kisses "so long as we both shall live."BEST THING EVER!! :)<3 Linda
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So true… both the laughing till throw up point in Date night, and PDA is awesome married! 😉
Steve Carell carrying Tina Fey's legs around a pole was the highlight of the movie for me.
we should try that pole move sometime, La
Erm…just to check the veracity and validity of your statement that "married sex is the best sex" – have you had a lot of non-married sex, for comparison?I've never had marred sex and I'm not knocking it, but the non-married sex I've had has generally been pretty good, and on occasion (and with the right partner) absolutely spectacular.Woody Allen (I believe) once said something like, "Even the worst sex is still pretty good."
I would have to agree with the previous anonymous comment – weren't you pro-abstinence before you got married? You don't really seem to be in a position to pass judgment on this topic.BTW:How do you even know if you are doing it right? Sorry, I had to go there.
To clarify: the adjective "good" isn't meant to describe technique – I'm sure there are a few professionals that are "good" in that respect. By pointing out that married sex is "good" I mean that it is what sex is designed for. Having not experienced pre-marital sex, as you point out, I would still wager that sex with someone that has committed themselves to you for the rest of their life beats sex with anyone else.Neither Anonymouses seem to have had experience of married sex, however, and therefore I can assure them: it's good, and we're definitely doing it right.
The fact that no comparison can be made is one of the things that MAKES married sex (without pre-marital experience) so good. I think anonymouses above are probably referring specifically to orgasms… can I say orgasms here… and one of the joys of married sex is that it isn't that short sighted. It encompasses so much more… orgasms (thankfully) and so much more.
This is the first Anonymous (I checked back to see if Sarah had replied to my comment – and for the record, I have no idea who the other Anonymous is).Sarah, you said: …that it is what sex is designed for. First, I'm not going to even start about the word "designed"…moving on, sex is intended for procreation. That's it. And the focus of that is for orgasms, 'cause you can't have kids w/o orgasms (well, male orgasms – the female ones really aren't needed for the whole procreation thing (and whole I'm in paratheses here, Courtney, I sure hope we can type 'orgasm' here 'cause I've just done it a half-dozen times)). And if you're having sex and deliberately circumventing the procreation aspect (through some form of birth control) then you are no longer having sex for the reason it was "designed".Anyway…Sarah, it sounds like what you're talking about is acts that promote togetherness and bonding. Is having a meal, singing a song, or playing cards with someone to whom you are married better than with anyone else?
Hey 1st & 2nd Anonymouses…My husband's had both…he HIGHLY prefers the married version, you'd have to ask him why…lol! And i know he's not just saying that to please me, cuz he makes grunting noises and barely speaks legibly with other undecipherable sounds when describing how much he loves married sex vs. pre-married sex. LOL – i'm blushing.Anyway, if anything, maybe what you can take away from all of this is that marriage is not the end of a supremely wonderful sex-life and i think what Sarah meant by "design" is that society makes out sex to be something that's given out as easily as the condoms passed out in college halls, where dudes and dudettes alike boast of sleeping with someone the night before without even knowing their names. Conversely, society also makes out that marriage is like a ball-and-chain, the end of all things fun, independent and free.However, could there possibly be a third option? One where marriage can be the start of the best time of your life? Where looking back to college or young adult-hood as being the prime of life is replaced with looking forward knowing that the best is still to come? Well, my marriage makes me blush. thinking about my husband turns me on. I've had A LOT of fun as a single woman, but i'm having HECK of a lot more with my very best friend – including super hot sex – knowing full well that when i wake up in the morning and my breath stinks and i have goop in my eyes, he'll always still be there, giving me morning-breath kisses "so long as we both shall live."BEST THING EVER!! :)<3 Linda